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Monday, June 30, 2014

Weekly Ambitions

Am I the only one who plans for a non-eventful weekend only to be running ALL weekend long and then does a mad dash to get ready for Monday and the following weeks on Sunday evenings? Yeah? Just me? Ok...on to this week's ambitions.

Quote for the Week
Have enough courage to trust Love one more time and always one more time. ~Maya Angelou

Weekly Habit

I realized last night that I haven't picked Cease up in about two weeks! TWO! I kept feeling like I was missing something and I think it might just be time practicing my hobby. So this week I'm going to try to get in at least one picture this week and see if we can't make this habit stick.
::SIDE:: My last habit of drinking more water actually stuck and is sticking. I'm a little under a gallon a day! I need a cute water bottle that won't leak in my bag and is easy to open with one hand, I'm a multitasker.

Weekly Goal

Chunks and I are working on tying his shoes himself, I've even created an embarrassing yet effective song about dinosaurs to help him remember the steps but I haven't been consistent with practicing with him. This week I hope to get him through the first loop on his own. My personal goal for the week is to carve out some "me" time, I can feel the burn out coming so some time away will be had this week.

Weekly Challenge

This week's challenge is a continuation from last week, $20 allowance for the week. I did good with the first week but it's still a struggle for an emotional shopper who thinks her wardrobe sucks! Keep me in prayer folks, it's real lol

Are any of you working/worked on tying laces, what worked? What are your weekly ambitions?

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Operation: Debt Diet

Truth Moment: When I left home at 17 I had NO clue about finances. I would always say, whoever I married had to be great with money because it wasn't my thing worrying about balancing books and paying bills, just let me work and spend my money. Sad, I know, but I was 17! lol My parents had taken out loans for my brother and were dealing with their own issues so my undergrad financing became my responsibility, when you don't know what you're doing and people come asking for $34,000 you take loans where they offer and pray for the best. Fast forward...I married a man who was HORRIBLE with money and so I had to become smarter with my coins but still stumbled and made a few bad decisions and paid a few things late.

I'm older now, things need to happen soon, I'm making pretty good money, and now I need to come up with a plan to get me back on the right track. Enter Shoulders, the money man. I told him about wanting to get my things in order and he put me on a budget! ::cue Law & Order Dun Duns:: This has been the most transparent I've been with any man because he got 3 of my pay stubs and a summary of my bills ::sigh:: thankfully with little judgement. We've been trying it his way since my birthday in March and although his plan is a little rough its been working.

Pay Your Bills
Pay Yourself 10%
Stash the Rest

I tackle my bills at the beginning of the month: Student Loans, Phone, Chunks's Tuition, Groceries, and Credit Card Bills and as of last month I have NO, ZERO, ZILCH credit card debt left!! You know how long I've been wanting to get there?? Who knew all you had to do was pay more than the minimum? ::SHRUGS:: This fueled me to want to do more and of course he was ALL over that. That 10% I was supposed to be paying myself? GONE, and cut down to $20 a week. I didn't think I could do it but at the end of week 1 last week, I still had $11.35! Yeah, shocked me too! But with better meal prep and going straight home from work and avoiding my guilty pleasures I was able to hold on to my coins and after a while I didn't even think about it, much. Chunks and I stayed in the neighborhood this weekend and surprisingly didn't have to buy anything

Originally, I was going to just add the left over money to a stash and see how much I could save for the month but I've decided to just continue week 2 with the $11.35. It's Tuesday morning and I still have the same $11.35, I think it's doable and I'm feeling better and better about tackling my savings and debt diet goals.

Next challenge, paying off my smallest Federal loan by the end of the year. Fingers crossed and prayers for my sanity please, I really want a new bag, my 35mm lens, and some cute sandals lol.

Monday, June 23, 2014

I Am Not An Island

This parenting business....

Recently, a few things have come up in my life that make me fully understand that this parenting is NOT meant to be done alone. It's done everyday, yes, but it is HARD! Having to balance who you are outside of Mother along with being present for this life you were put in charge of is no easy task and no one can do it alone. 

From the decision on where he'll go to school being based on what time he gets out and whether someone can pick him up to who can watch him while I do something as basic as run to the store are thoughts I have everyday. I recently was asked to interview for a position in DC and while it could be an awesome opportunity, the first thing I thought of was: I have NO village in DC, who would be there to help if need be. In NY I'm so blessed to be covered with multiple options but what if we had to leave....

This all makes me so grateful to my father for Pop-Pop Daycare since Day 1 and to my brother who stands in the gap as the adored Uncle Warren. Thankful for my Mother, while we differ in our parenting methods greatly, I know he'll be fed until I can get home or put to bed if I need a night out. My cousins who step in with random dinosaurs and snacks are awesome. I love that his godfather, that he thinks is so cool is right down the block and he can experience playing on the block with his god brother like we did as kids. I have some loyal friends I could call on as well, like his god mother who never misses a show, birthday, or holiday. In all of this I see that we are blessed and while sometimes I want to hide under my Super Mom cape and just do it all myself because it's the bed I made, I'm getting used to reaching out for a timeout every now and then and I hope each one of them knows how thankful and grateful for each of them we are.

This job wasn't made to be done alone, ours might not be "traditional" but the village is a blessing none the less and I'm grateful.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

30 Things I Want My Children to Know About Me - 5 Things That Make Me Happy Now

Continuing with my 30 Things I Want My Children to Know About Me series...the next prompt was actually kind of hard but I think it's all covered: What are the 5 Things that Make you Happy Now?

1- YOU! Duh! You already know that though. Everyday I get to walk in the door and hear "Mommy!!!" lifts all the weight off my shoulders. Teaching you new things, showing you new places, and watching you grow everyday makes me feel like I'm doing something right. We laugh, wrestle, and study all about dinosaurs EVERY DAY! and I complain about your never ending energy but I love it.

2-Photography. Reading about, studying other photographers, picking up the camera and experimenting and "finding my photography eye" is so therapeutic for me. I love looking at great images and how others see things it just makes me want to move more and more because we don't get good light in our space lol but you are getting better at posing and liking the camera so that makes things a little easier now.

3-Music. I can't really go a day without listening to it and you're learning that Mommy can go from Jay Z to Anita Baker to Maroon 5 and over the Donnie McClurkin real quick. It's a mood lifter, booster, maker no matter where I am or what I'm doing. The magic of the tune!

4-Reading. Since I was little girl I've always been a bookworm. Getting lost in a different world/life/time is ideal for to escape being Boss Nerd Mommy for a little while. I love that you have picked up my love of a good story (even if we a have to read the same story every night, three times).

5-Peonies. Right now they are in season and I love to have fresh flowers in the house and this is a prissy as I get. Funny Story: Every time I walk in with flowers, you wait until I put them down and then present them to me with "Here Mommy, I got you some flowers" and I give you an ol' dramatic Thank You and hug lol At least you know what gentlemen should do!

Monday, June 16, 2014

Weekly Ambitions

Weekly Quote
"No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." 
Hebrews 12:11.
Weekly Habit

This has been listed as a habit here before and it still needs work so I'm adding it again. WATER! 
My intake is terrible! I can blame it on a couple of things but really I haven't made it a habit so I picked up a few cases from Target this week and I am determined to make this habit stick. No need facing avoidable illnesses later on.

Weekly Goal

To go through and truly get rid of anything too small or just not in our tastes anymore. I hold on to things sometimes, especially Chunks's clothes because secretly ::whispers:: what if I have another baby? It's silly and our space is getting tight, so donate and trash piles it is.

Weekly Challenge

This week's challenge comes from Shoulders. He has become my budget accountability person and sometimes I love him for it sometimes I want to gauge his eyes out!!! Capricorns are ALL about money and making it grow in their favor but GOD they don't budge! (a little much for my poor Pisces spending heart ::sigh::) $20. TWENTY! That's all I get to spend this week. All of my bills have been paid for the month and I've paid into Chunks's savings account so I "shouldn't NEED to spend any money". I need all the prayers this week. Lunches will be packed and window shopping cut to a minimum, lest I'm tempted. More on how this budget business has been going in another post.

Any of you have any Ambitions for the week? How to you keep reminders through the week?

Sunday, June 15, 2014



To all the amazing men doing the incredible job of FATHERHOOD! Your voice, presence, and love MATTERS! Your children are blessed to know you, learn from you, and receive the foundation that is you.

Chunks and I are blessed to have amazing fathers in our lives and know first hand how special today is.

ENJOY YOUR DAY and ladies enjoy spoiling them today!

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Summer Bucket List

Even though the jackets have not been packed away quite yet here in Brooklyn it's June! And this means SUMMER to me, the time of the year I come alive. I'm a Winter baby but LOVE the sun. I don't think anyone from NYC will be complaining about 90* days this year, Mother Nature had her entire way with us this Winter ::sigh::

So, I'm sunshine focused and I'm planning things for Chunks and I to get into this Summer.

* Visit the aquarium.
* Have an Ice Cream Sundae Party.
* Pick berries.
* Spend the day at the beach.
* Fly a kite.
* Go on a road trip.
* Visit a park we've never been to.
* Go to the zoo.
* Have a picnic in the park. Prospect & Central.
* Go bowling.

* Unplug for a day (no phone, tablet, computer, or tv)
* Make our own pizza.
* Watch a movie outdoors.
* Day trip to Governor's Island.
* Celebrate Chunk's 5th Birthday!!
* Take Birthday pictures.
* Play miniature golf.
* Ice Cream Shop Date.
* Ride the Water Taxi.
* See the dinosaurs.

This is just for starters but I think all are do-able. So cheers to summer days and longer summer nights of fun for us both!

What's on your Summer agenda? 


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